communication

Change: Alter, Transform and Switch; To Become Different

Change: Alter, Transform and Switch; To Become Different

: to make different in some particular : ALTER

: to make radically different : TRANSFORM

: to make a shift from one to another : SWITCH

: to become different

Ahh yes: “Alter, transform and switch, to become different’’.....these words resonate a lot in FIG’s evolution, we’re excited about a little bit of change (and a little apprehensive if we’re being honest!).

Technology Addiction: Yes, It's a Thing...

Technology Addiction: Yes, It's a Thing...

In her Wall Street Journal article: Digital Addictions Are Drowning Us in Dopamine, Dr, Lembke, a Stamford University professor and psychiatrist, talks about the scientific biological effects of addictions to our devices. It’s real folks. This is not FIG banging the drum of putting down our phones or any other technological apparatus and talking or connecting with our fellow human beings. No. This is concrete, physiological, measurable, science based fact that continuously interacting with our high-tech electronic leashes, gaming apparatuses and social media actually, physically, alters our brains to crave more of it, thereby de-incentivising us to engage with others on a human level.

Gasp, shock and awe!

Mistakes: Perfectly Human

Mistakes: Perfectly Human

Mistakes. We all make them, we’re human beings and by definition 99.9% imperfect (with apologies to those of you who think otherwise), which results in, guess what? Mistakes (we make them hourly at FIG)! That gaffes, miscalculations and oversights are a part of our collective experience on this earth. Why (on earth!) is it so hard to admit to making mistakes, take responsibility for these human aberrations and move on after making a miscalculation or error? Hmmmm?

Habits: The Good, The Bad, and the Intangible

Habits: The Good, The Bad, and the Intangible

We all have habits - some serve us well and some get in our way…...Google states: “A habit is a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.” Establishing a habit usually takes about two weeks to become routine and is subsequently supported and reinforced by practicing it daily.

Life Happens

Life Happens

Ever had a “Monday” on any day of the week? Ever had your day perfectly planned, scheduled and organized only to have all your intended “to-do’s”: meetings, calls, oh yeah, actual “work,” utterly blown up by an unexpected interruption, complication, interference? Ever had someone insert themselves into your day with their drama, troubles or lack of planning (real or self-inflicted), requiring you to shelve your carefully laid out day(s) and requiring you to stop whatever you’re doing for their fire drill?

Yeah, us too.

AI / EI: A Balancing Act

AI / EI: A Balancing Act

Artificial Intelligence (AI) has become and will continue to be increasingly prevalent and omnipresent in our worlds, and with new developments in AI technology, are likely to become so much more so going forward. Cars park themselves; HR can allow their employees to manage their own vacation time, 401k’s, and keep track of hours worked; (online) stores keep track of our recent purchases to make it easier to buy again by algorithm; our passwords are stored in some mystical cloud so when we log into our favorite websites, they automatically populate; Uber knows our home address magically... clearly we could go on (and on and on... Alexa and Siri have become close personal friends - kidding!). These are all phenomenal technological developments and we marvel at how simple and easy it makes our lives. But, as with just about everything in life, we need to find a counter balance to all these wonders of technology. We are humans and guess what? Humans conceive, create, develop and produce all this magic. And humans need other humans to survive, businesses don’t run by themselves, and employees need to work together to make a business successful. SO. How to find the balance?

Intentional Compliments

Intentional Compliments

Happy Thursday, All!

Lately, we’ve been thinking about compliments, one of the great gifts we can give one another and elements of interactions that are a cherished part of our linguistic capabilities. As one does when thinking about a specific topic, we began paying attention to people's behaviors around giving and receiving these gifts. Chances are we are all guilty of offering disingenuous toss away platitudes like, “Nice job!” or, “Looking good!” or, “Aren’t you nice?” We are all probably equally guilty for, at some point in our lives, deflecting, dismissing or otherwise blowing off a compliment or commendation with, “Oh, don’t be silly” or, “Nah, you’re just saying that,” or “Oh, stop it” or “You really think that?” or (our personal cynical favorite) “I’ll pay you later” or, worst of all, simply ignoring one. The thing is: when we toss around oblique non-specific “accolades” like Mardi Gras beads to just about everyone, frankly our credibility comes into question making it suspect to those on the receiving end whether they are conscious of it or not (it’s that pesky amygdala “bullshit detector” again!). Conversely, when we deflect or dismiss an apparently genuine acknowledgement of something someone perceives as a good thing, we’re essentially saying, ”Your opinion or observation is of no value to me,” which usually isn’t the case (usually it indicates a certain lack of confidence or need for more validation in the deflector - but that’s a topic for another day). The banality of those, while probably well-meant, platitudes like “good job” are so ubiquitous these days, we think, are a result of people not slowing down and thinking about what we are actually trying to say. And honestly, it’s just simpler. But do we really want simple or do we want to add value to those we care about or work with by genuinely acknowledging someone’s accomplishments and valuing others' honest assessment of a job well done?

Yeah, us too.

So how?

A Manicure Revelation

A Manicure Revelation

Last weekend, I treated myself to a manicure (which was lovely!) and an event happened that I haven’t been able to shake. Here’s what transpired: we were about halfway through this luxury and a guy walked into the salon with his son (unusual, but there it is). The owner, who was tending to my post-pandemic hands and cuticles (it wasn’t pretty!), asked - as they do when anyone comes in- “Hello! How can we help you?” The guy said, “I’ll need 7 mani/pedis for a party. Can you do it in an hour?” The owner looked around her Saturday busy salon - all 5 of the nail technicians were busy with clients and would be for the next 2 hours. So she said to the guy (paraphrasing a bit) “Can you come back in 2 hours? We’ll have to stagger your party, but we can fit them all in then?” The guy, clearly annoyed, said to his son, “Let’s go!” The boy said “What’s wrong? Why aren’t you taking the appointments?” The (Dad?) said it was much too long to wait, they’d find somewhere else, and probably wouldn’t be back!. For a party of 7, requested an hour in advance!

SO. A lot to unpack here…..

Why Don't We Ask for Help?

Why Don't We Ask for Help?

Anyone out there have trouble asking for help? Yeah, us too.

As we tend to do at FIG, we wondered why is this simple request so fraught with hesitancy, reluctance and inaction? We ALL can use some help sometimes and, we hate to be the bearer of bad news, we’re ALL human and NONE of us have all the answers to everything - seriously, we’re not kidding. This blows up our cavalier notion that we “should” be able to find an answer, “should” be able to figure a way out of a challenging situation, “should” know how to extricate ourselves from a tricky situation, “should” know the right words or pick the right time to have a difficult conversation, “should” know how to look for a job fresh out of college, “should” be able to understand a confusing concept, “should” know how to approach someone we don’t know and strike up a conversation, “should” be able to understand mystifying situations… “should;” “should;” “should.” Silly you, why don’t you know what you don’t know? My Dad has a saying: “Age and treachery will overcome youth and skill every time.” While somewhat cynical, he may, in fact, be on to something. Said more charitably, age, wisdom and experience are the supreme gifts of maturity and living life, and are meant to be shared. Why not benefit from some of THAT? Asking for help will oftentimes paralyze us, but why?

The Quest for Perfection; The Downfall of Communication

The Quest for Perfection; The Downfall of Communication

Hello again and happy Thursday!

We’re hoping you had a chance to listen to the conversation we offered last week for your listening pleasure, and thought we’d highlight some of the (we think!) key takeaways from the broadcast. Alex Cullimore, Cristina Amigoni and I examined, in depth, the concepts of meaningful conversation and connection, the fears involved in making us shy away from communicating intentionally, and the tools we have currently at our disposal that facilitate our avoidance - and there are a TON of them! In 2021, we find ourselves in a world, loaded with technology created to help us to facilitate communication more easily and more fluidly, at least conceptually. However we find that the platforms, apps, emails, texting, social media et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, in addition to being convenient and relatively quick and easy, have also had the (we’re sure!) unintended consequence of helping us avoid the, sometimes terrifying, prospect of actually having conversations and allowing us to avoid the very same. Throughout the podcast, I also found myself coming back again and again to the idea of the expectation of perfection.

Perfection, (defined by Dictionary.com as a quality, trait, or feature of the highest degree of excellence), is an impossible standard to strive for, (vastly overstating the obvious, but just sayin’). Perfection is the opposite of the human experience and our authentic selves. Human beings are messy and imperfect, but these are also the traits that make humanity beautiful. This crusade towards perfection is yet another reason we see a breakdown in communication between the five generations and amongst ourselves in the workplace and humans in general. Why is the quest for perfection a piece of this dysfunction? How can we overcome a trend that has slowly been bred by technology into our habits as human beings? We invite you to read on…...